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    August 4, 2023

    Therapists have a variety of training and tools to help their clients reach desired goals and process past traumas. At Jones Family Counseling, our counselors are equipped to help you and want to partner with you on this journey of self-discovery, growth, and empowerment. Trish Overton, one of the trauma-certified counselors at Jones Family Counseling, […]

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    To jones family counseling

    Therapists have a variety of training and tools to help their clients reach desired goals and process past traumas. At Jones Family Counseling, our counselors are equipped to help you and want to partner with you on this journey of self-discovery, growth, and empowerment. Trish Overton, one of the trauma-certified counselors at Jones Family Counseling, uses a technique
    called brain spotting to help her clients explore unprocessed traumas and find healing. Like EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), brain spotting is a type of therapy that can bring one’s unprocessed traumas to the surface through eye movement. Brain spotting allows the therapist and client to tap into areas of the midbrain where certain events or memories have become “stuck”. The therapist uses a pointer or another tool to guide one’s eyes across their field of vision to find the “brain spots”, the place where unprocessed trauma is stored. Even though the therapist is directing the positions of the eyes, the client is responsible for leading the dialogue. Trish provides her clients with a safe space to explore any overwhelming experiences. The client fully controls how much they wish to dive into a specific area. Brain spotting can be beneficial for a variety of people. Those who struggle with anxiety, phobias, anger issues, PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), depression, ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), and even chronic pain can benefit from this therapy.

    There are a few things to know before starting brain spotting therapy. Understand that this process can sometimes be overwhelming, which is why one should never practice this technique alone. Sometimes revelations can be painful but know that they can also be essential to one’s overall progress. If you are contemplating whether this type of therapy is suited for you and your current stage of life, below are additional resources. If you decide brain spotting is something you would like to pursue, contact our office today!

    What Is Brainspotting?
    Brainspotting
    Brainspotting: What Is It? How Does It Work? And Will It Work For You?
    Brainspotting Therapy: How It Works, Techniques, and Efficacy

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    What the Serenity Prayer Offers During the Holiday Season

    November 25, 2020

    Therapists will tell you that the holiday season is rarely one of cheer for clients, students, and patients. Family stressors, financial demands, social pressures, and grief anniversaries abound during this time of year. And of course, the losses in this particular year are too great to enumerate. This holiday season, it seems particularly relevant to […]

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    What the Serenity Prayer Offers During the Holiday Season

    Therapists will tell you that the holiday season is rarely one of cheer for clients, students, and patients. Family stressors, financial demands, social pressures, and grief anniversaries abound during this time of year. And of course, the losses in this particular year are too great to enumerate. This holiday season, it seems particularly relevant to share why acceptance of the things we cannot change is vital to all of our mental health.

    When I first meet my clients, I am very clear about setting some particular boundaries. The first being, that I believe each person is their own best therapist. That they have an inner counselor who learns from the wisdom of their experiences and receives counsel along the path of life through many interactions with others. My job is to facilitate that growth and create a space of safety to allow that process to flourish. The second thing, and probably the most pertinent to this post, is that each person is in a constant state of recovery.

    Most people think of recovery as belonging strictly to people who “suffer” from addiction. While there is a much longer conversation about maladaptive coping and trauma, I would like to make a clear statement here surrounding recovery: recovery is the work we all do to get back to our authentic or true self. Since that may be the journey of a lifetime, we may always be in recovery, unearthing our wise and kind selves, discovering our angry and powerful natures. We may always need to accept the terrible truth that we cannot truly control, nor can we ever truly know anyone or anything. And through that complicated process, we may accept and love ourselves and deepen our sense of belonging with one another in spite of the almost overwhelming biological imperative to control and define it all.

    Acceptance and Commitment Therapy teaches us that it is the things we hold the deepest connection with, our values, that guide us into meaning and connection with the world around us and the life we are given. We accept pain and darkness and seek commitment to our values through awareness. While I do not profess to have an addiction that necessitated a twelve-step process, as a survivor of childhood trauma, poverty, abuse, and neglect, I can say that I connect deeply with the concept of controlling and avoiding pain. Also as a survivor, I recognize the fruitlessness of those actions. Rarely does the avoidance of pain yield the outcome we think it will, but often I find that as people overcome their fear of it, they find they are much stronger than even they imagined. They can feel pain and they can recover.

    Perhaps my childhood experiences left me with a misguided optimism, but I honestly believe, everyone can make their recovery (blame my PBS dads, Bob Ross, and Mr. Rogers). However, each person must also be able to honor the limitations that their life has placed around them while testing those boundaries constantly. So what do I mean by that? Well, let’s turn to the serenity prayer and examine it for the wisdom it offers to all who would sit with their own pain and mistakes:

    God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference (Neibur, R., 1932).

    The first request: there are things I cannot change. I most especially cannot change others. I most likely will not be able to change for others. Things are different from people, there may be things I can change. There are definitely things I can not. If there are things I can change, they will not reside in the past. They may not reside in the future. The most likely things to change are in the present. As I sit with this awareness, I may feel peace as I accept what is and what cannot be otherwise.

    The second request: the things I can change will require my courage and bravery to alter. I might encounter great fear as I seek to understand these things. In the face of that fear, I will need to honor my own desires for deep connection and meaning in my life and move past or through my fear. My desire for control is because of my fear and if I let go of needing control, I may use my courage to feel my fear as I alter and change the things I can.

    And the third request: I will need the wisdom to determine how to proceed with each dilemma. Regardless of your belief in a higher power, each person is granted a measure of intuition and awareness of the world around them that helps them navigate the complexities of their relationship with others. In moments of crisis, the ability to be thoughtful and intentional seems like an unattainable goal. For that reason, I encourage you to spend many moments connecting with your deep awareness. Allow it to become a familiar friend, one that you can turn to when hard decisions face you. From a place of awareness, you can see without judgment or criticism the choices that will align more closely with your values, with the most authentic version of you.

    This time of year can tax us in many ways. As you attempt to navigate these relationships this holiday season, I hope you will offer yourself the opportunity to reconnect with who you are and who you want to be in those relationships. This year, with all of its tribulations, may offer us one last gift: the space to see and the time to reflect.

    As you go forward, I would offer you gratitude for taking the time to allow me to share, from my counselor to yours, the wisdom that has been passed down from so many others. If you would like to spend more time reading about acceptance and Commitment Therapy, you can find resources here. Also, if you need help with sobriety, there are meetings everywhere. Finally, if you are in crisis please don’t suffer in silence, there is help for all who would seek it. Please call the national suicide helpline or 911, in the event of an emergency.

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    Counseling LifeHack: The Do-Over

    August 26, 2020

    A little known thing about arguments is that they are actually quite healthy. That is, if they are done respectfully. Arguments are a sign that people are as striving to understand and connect with each other. That they want to be heard and that there is something worth fighting for…something of value. However, we have […]

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    Counseling LifeHack: The Do-Over

    A little known thing about arguments is that they are actually quite healthy. That is, if they are done respectfully. Arguments are a sign that people are as striving to understand and connect with each other. That they want to be heard and that there is something worth fighting for…something of value.

    However, we have all been in the argument that has gone on too long. It seems that it’s just like all those other arguments that we’ve had before. We have cycled through our point of view so many times that it’s obvious the communication breakdown has more to do with personality differences than just perspective changes. We try exhaustedly, frustratedly, to get the other person to understand and they keep trying for the same. We’ve reached the time where we start using hurtful and button-punching language. We’re ready for it to be done. Sometimes, we hit a point where we don’t even know what we’re fighting about anymore but we really want to win.

    But what would be the best outcome here? If we actually won, the other side has to lose. And you know: in a relationship, if somebody wins everybody loses. The best outcome might not be to get the other person to cave. Enter: the Do-Over.

    The Do-Over’s function is that of a reset. If you ever wished that you could just get back to your day rather than this fight, it’s probably a good time for a Do-Over. Do-Overs are an acknowledgement of the fact that a relationship can still be in tact even if an argument does not have a resolution. They are used to help the relationship maintain it’s value and not necessarily to the detriment of the members in the relationship. Do-Overs can be done with partners, children, family, friends, even co-workers. Do-Overs have some stout rules but once applied, everyone gets the benefit of having the opportunity to move out of the argument space and into…well whatever else you wanted to do that day.

    How To Do-Over:

    1) Every one MUST agree that they want to have a Do-Over. Just because it is offered, does not mean that it is compulsory. A person may still feel that they need to be heard and understood, or that they have more to say and they want feedback before they can agree to a Do-Over.
    2) Once the Do-Over has been agreed upon, there may be a final word for each person. Essentially, this is the last word but there is no arguing with someone’s final word. They say it and that’s it. Others can acknowledge that they heard it or let it be. The final word can also be an apology for hurtful things said during the argument or for starting the argument.
    3) Once the Do-Over final word is completed, there is generally a physical acknowledgement that the reset is occurring. A 20-second hug is a great technique to use to signal to the body that the argument is over and to restore the previous connection in the relationship. However, a less intimate way to reset can be to let everyone take a few deep cleansing breaths or go outside for some fresh air and perspective.
    4) The last step for the Do-Over is the most vital and is actually a rule for fair-fighting. Now, the content of the fight is old business and may not be brought back up. The reset has been established and everyone has faithfully agreed that they would like to participate in the Do-Over, so nothing from the previous disagreement can be used to cycle back into trying to win or change the other side. Usually, if someone does this, it is a sign that they weren’t ready for the Do-Over or that they need to forgive themselves for making the mistake, apologize, and move on.

    Example:

    In all relationships, especially with children, there are power struggles. In this case, both my partner and I were trying to argue with our threenager.

    As was her wont, she frequently liked to cause a fight of a Sunday morning. Apparently, the stress of having a relaxing brunch with jazz playing in the background at our sun-filled kitchen table was just too much. It was like she saw these two grown people lazily preparing the meal and said to herself, “what would take this to the next level? I know: a squealing fit about my sneezing and hatred of waiting.”

    Now, most parents know this is par for the course and that doesn’t change much of their trajectory when it comes to hashbrowns and waffles. They want that noise to stop. They want to eat and enjoy the peace of the morning. So they try to cajole, to ignore, and then to argue with their small wizard (a person who can magically transform things). In this case, I think some fantastic points were made about the availability of toys and coloring supplies. Then, still sleepy parents might have gotten a little beligerant and melodramatic about the ENTIRE day being ruined and so on. Voices may be raised on both sides, tears for sure at a few points, brunch is dangerously close to burning, and the dog is hiding in the living room. Someone, anyone, says, “wait, can we just have a Do-Over?”

    Everyone stops. Yes, yes we can. In this case, mommy apologises first for lying and saying the whole day was ruined. It wasn’t true and it’s not fair to put the whole day under one argument. Next, threenager says she is sorry she screamed and got mad but she thinks she needs a cookie or toast next time while she waits. Daddy says, that’s fine but in this house we ask for what we want and don’t treat others like servants. We then, took a deep breath, let it out, and came together for a group hug. And resumed brunch as previously scheduled.

    2 hours later:

    Threenager is screaming about breaking her crayon and the general malaise of being oppressed by the peaceful Sunday afternoon. Mommy brings up the fact that the threenager just really hates Sundays and relaxation and now must immediately apologize because she is a counselor and she recognizes old business when she hears it coming out of her mouth. So she does and they hug it out. And maybe someday, like, say when she is 6 the threenager grows out of the Sunday Drama and instead helps set the table and put out the food and we have Do-Overs because mommy is going through menopause and is a forty-threenager.


    Kristen Carlosh is a licensed professional counselor working in private practice, as well as a former school counselor, female Gordon Ramsey, and Best Mom Ever. She is currently writing her dissertation for her doctoral degree in Counselor Education. She writes blogs because they are infinitely more fun, and sharing is caring. Contact her at kristen@jonesfamilycounselingcenter.com.

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